Great post. I do have a heightened BS awareness and little patience for it (BS, not awareness). Let's call a spade a spade, shall we? I don't think God has anything to do with the messy business of divorce. There are always ways of justifying behavior, no matter how bad it is, but I can't stand it when people justify their behavior in the name of God. Someone can visit a women's shelter and then tell others about how they "ministered" to the less fortunate. Another person can preach about what the Bible says about divorce although the preaching largely depends on whether that person is the one being left behind or is the one moving on with someone else. My ex-husband left because we were "unequally yoked," or at least that was the excuse being given at the time. The bottom line was that he was screwing someone else and the grass was greener on the other side. So, I picked up the pieces and moved on. Someone had to be responsible for raising the kids. I've long since moved on from blaming him (or her by default). SH-T happens, doesn't it? I believe that honesty comes from looking at one's own responsibility in a situation, acknowledging it, and moving forward. I've got grandchildren now, and don't have time to re-hash what should or could have been. Just please don't preach about divorce (or other things) and then tell me you know what God has to say about it (or other things). I don't believe that any one person has a plumb-line to and from God.
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