Great question Jan. For me I think the hold on my thought process is because I haven't thoroughly forgiven. I have my moments but under stress I lose it. A few years ago when I read factnet, I was blown away by the forgiveness of one of the LW posters (missing link I think was her screen name) and her resolve not to be bitter. I thought that's what I want.
I remember Ditch Digger Yasper recommended meditation (I think it's also called mindfulness these days) which I have tried but I have a hard time slowing down my mind or brain. But I want to keep at it as science tells us that too much stress does damage the brain but the brain has the ability to recover due to plasticity and apparently meditation can help with this as can calming herbal teas and certain medications. Folks who master meditation seem to live in the present and are not stuck or tormented by what happened in the past. (I learned some of that when my mom was aging.)
I remember Ditch Digger Yasper recommended meditation (I think it's also called mindfulness these days) which I have tried but I have a hard time slowing down my mind or brain. But I want to keep at it as science tells us that too much stress does damage the brain but the brain has the ability to recover due to plasticity and apparently meditation can help with this as can calming herbal teas and certain medications. Folks who master meditation seem to live in the present and are not stuck or tormented by what happened in the past. (I learned some of that when my mom was aging.)